When I was a young girl I did ballet classes and had an extremely good posture, my teacher told me that despite my short height I had potential to be a good ballerina. Everything was going well UNTILL puberty hit me like a road block and I developed... new assets.
The trouble with being 4'11 is that everyone noticed how short I was in comparison to everyone else and my new 'assets' were also more noticeable. So as I went on to senior school with my new body and ballerina posture I was faced with a different judgement - instead of being praised for my excellent posture, "shoulders down and back, neck elongated and chin up", I was told:
"STOP STICKING YOUR TITS OUT YOU SLAG",
"Charlie, you're inviting negative attention with your chest",
"Sweetheart, I say this as a loving teacher looking out for you, you shouldn't pronounce your development in to womanhood in front of the young boys" (bearing in mind the school uniform is a buttoned up shirt and jumper)
So I began to roll my shoulders forward, hunch my lower back over and my posture is now horrendous. Don't get me wrong, everyone that knows me knows I love a good V-neck however I have less than 5cm's of "chest" before my cleavage starts; so without wearing a roll neck (which is incredibly unforgiving for my shape) I'll always appear to be 'flashing my assets'.
As I started to go out to pubs and clubs men would assume because I had a larger chest it automatically meant I was "up for it" - on top of that wives and girlfriends automatically didn't like me and my 'blessings' became something very negative.
So at 4'11 with FF's it's literally unavoidable to notice my shape and online dating is an absolute nightmare. I get the obvious type of messages "oi, oi TITS" - cue immediate disgust and blocking. I get the slow build up from some guys who start off nice and then eventually end in "You're beautiful, and might i just add you have wonderful breasts" - cue a sad sigh and blocking.
In some cases, as I experienced tonight, you have the 'nice lawyer from Covent Garden' who acts like a complete gentleman until it gets to arranging the finer details for the first date...
Yes, you read correctly....the guy I was going to meet next Saturday made the assumption he would be staying the night on the first date AND asked if I would give him a lift to a cricket match in another county. Now I'm not saying this is because I'm well blessed in the upper chest region BUT after the comments I usually get it can really get to a girl!
** Disclaimer he already knew I horse ride and so my "riding comment" can not be translated as a naughty innuendo
So this blog doesn't really have a 'point' but maybe a lesson for anyone commenting on a woman's large chest - (most) of us didn't choose this 'blessing', it doesn't automatically make a lady a 'slag' or 'easy'. So boy's on tinder - there's more to a short woman with large over the shoulder bolder holders.
I'll now be focusing on getting back my ballerina posture... and anyone that makes a negative comment about it, I'll be sending you the bill from my chiropractor!
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