A Tinder Revelation - Yummy Yank's and Tinder Sims

So i've already posted about "that guy who's only in town for a few days" and how they're only after one thing.... but there's always one exception to the rule!! It's wise to stay clear of these tinder players, however about 8 weeks ago I "matched" with someone "down the road" from me. It turned out they worked on a ship and were only docked in my local area for the day, but by the time this essential information was established I'd already decided I wanted to get to know him.

What a fatal mistake that was.

By the time my "Yummy Yank" was half way across european sea's my heart was jumping every time my phone "pinged" with a new message. This is a recipe for disaster... when there is land and sea between a guy and a gal this means there is room for fantasy. This is possibly why "sexting" (and the like) happens, because it's so easy to forget you're speaking to a real life human, much the same for any online interaction. Interacting online causes a delayed reaction, time to think about your response to a question or to a witty remark. It gives you time to be the best version of yourself. This is what I did with my american hunk... I'd like to think I was witty and loveable, he was talented and interesting. Yummy Yank quickly became (for lack of a better term) my favourite PenPal.

Over time we got to know one another, days and time differences went by, (PG) photos were exchanged, phone calls, Facebook adds, voice notes and "if only's" happened; however one huge problem remained, I'd never actually met him.

The problem with a virtual attraction is that it can quickly become part of a daily routine:

"Morning babe", "Did you sleep well?", "How are you?" , "I had a busy day, how was yours?" 

The real sucker is that you can become attached and actually start missing a person you've never met. When normal life takes hold and you realise it's not a normal relationship, you can almost get withdrawals, even become loyal. Suddenly the messages become few and far between, a gap that you didn't realise was filled becomes empty. This is the problem I've discovered with online dating, with online life in general, online life is so far removed from real life (ground breaking, I know).

You can be talking with a lovely person all day, loose time to your messaging device, and go to sleep with a smile on your face because of something cute a "Yummy Yank" has sent you... but it's still lonely.

What i've noticed (and guilty of) is that when talking to someone online you can build a perfect image and personality of a person in your head - much the same as a sims character! (Which 90's kid built their "perfect" partner on sims!?) The Sims concept happens in tinder/online dating and then you meet that perfectly normal, flawed human being, and they don't meet your perfect assumption. And thats it... you're back to swiping left or right, alone.

Without land and sea would my Yummy Yank still be my perfect Sim's character? I'd like to think so. But whilst I'm anchored to my own shores I realise, whether I'm online or offline,  I'm no where near a perfect sim's character myself so neither should my Yummy Yank; or any other poor unsuspecting character.

Let's remember, the online world is warped but a true partner will want you flaws and all.